You know what they say about New York? “If you can make it there, you can make it anywhere”? Well, there should be a similar saying about Hollywood. It should be “Hollywood…If your marriage can make it there, it can make it anywhere.”
Let’s face it, Hollywood marriages do not have the best track records. It feels sometimes like celebrities change spouses as quickly and easily as they change their movie roles.
“Hollywood…If your marriage can make it there, it can make it anywhere.”
Beyonce and Jay-Z, George Clooney and Amal, Gabriel Union and Dwayne Wade, and Kanye and Kim… While many Americans stay glued to the internet to see whether or not these new relationships will last, it might be a good idea for these young couples to pay close attention to the Hollywood relationships that have endured despite all of Hollywood’s temptations, the watchful media eye, sex scenes, and rumors, on top of the potential challenges that are both unique to celebrity relationships and typical of any “regular couple.” And maybe we, as “regular Americans,” can also take some advice from these celebrities who have been together for fifteen years or more. Here are some of tips celebrities claim have contributed to the success of their relationships, along with how to translate these tips into our every day “non-celebrity” relationships.
David and Victoria Beckham:
They spend time apart.
Your marriage: While it is extremely important to spend time with your partner, it is also helpful to embrace your individuality by doing things without your partner occasionally. These things should remind you of your identity as a man or woman (outside of your identity as strictly “a wife” or “a husband”) and have the potential to guard against boredom.
Tim McGraw and Faith Hill:
They take responsibility for their mistakes and don’t treat divorce like an easy out.
Your marriage: Recognize that there will be bumps on the road. Take responsibility for your part in the challenges and resolve to move forward in the relationship as a team, noting the lessons learned and vowing to recommit every day to the relationship.
Kevin Bacon and Kyra Sedgwick:
They are romantic with each other and have date nights.
Your marriage: Do not allow the demands of every day make you lose sight of the fact that taking care of one another’s romantic needs is top priority. Regular, planned date nights allow you the opportunity to put life’s stressors on hold and simply ENJOY EACH OTHER.
Michael J. Fox and Tracy Pollan:
They focus more on the comedy and less on the drama.
Your marriage: There is humor in almost everything if we take time to find it. Ever notice the times when you are extremely angry about something when it’s raw but, with time and thorough processing, you get to a place where you can actually find that very thing hilarious? While we should not be nonchalant about actual serious issues, we can make room to laugh at things that are petty or conflicts that we have reached a resolution on or moved passed. Imagine how much more enjoyable your relationship would be if you did this.
Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham (long term “dating” relationship):
They encourage one another, wanting their partner to be as successful as possible, while not being threatened by their partner’s success.
Your marriage: A healthy relationship generally consists of two secure individuals who root for the success of their partner, while also defining for themselves what their own individual goals are. They desire a happy and successful partner, a happy and successful relationship, and a happy and successful self.
If these tips are truly helping these celebrity relationships last, it’s certainly worth paying close attention to them. Again, if these relationships are able to survive despite all of their Hollywood challenges, these tips could likely be helpful to us, who are living without much of these unique challenges.
In case you’re curious… It’s worth mentioning some other celebrity couples who have been together for 15 years or more:
- Will and Jada Pinkett Smith (18 years)
- Hugh Jackman and Deborra-Lee Furness (19 years)
- Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos (19 years)
- Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson (27 years)
- Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn (32 years)